11.27.2012

Be Nice

Kiddos, listen to this; it's really important.

Be nice to yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone must make them. Forgive yourself for needing experience in order to gain wisdom.

Be nice to the people you love. Even if they seem to nag you, they really just want you to be your best self. They probably weren't even trying to pick at you. Even if they say the same things all the time, be nice to them.

Be nice to people you don't like. Even if they really super annoy the crap out of you. They are probably dealing with lots of their own issues that you don't know about, and they're really not trying to annoy you, they're just needy and don't know how to ask for help.

Be nice to the people that scare you. Don't let them get close to you. Don't let them know you. Stay as far away from them as possible. But be nice to them. They are dangerous, and they don't know the difference between right and wrong. They will use any excuse to be scary, so be nice to them, so they don't remember you.

If you are in danger; if someone is hurting your body; if someone is making you unsafe; or if they are making you feel like there is something wrong with you, when clearly there is not: stop being nice. Walk away. Tell them to stop. If they do not stop, make them stop to the best of your abilities. You have my full permission to physically harm anyone you must in order to protect yourself. No one is allowed to hurt you. If you are not in imminent danger, though....

...be nice all the time. Be nice to every person. Do not hurt anyone on purpose. Do not hurt other people to make yourself feel better. Do not dismiss other people to pretend that you're better.  Be nice. As much as you can, and as fully as you can, be nice. Remember this: people are not intrinsically good or bad; they are selfish. So am I, and so are you. Remember this about yourself, and try to look around your innate self-centered monkeybrain to understand the world around you. Try to recognize when others are listening too closely to their inner monkey, understand, and be nice.